What to do about those who reject God.
The proof of the pudding is in its eating.

The UK is a very diverse place where the Christian faith is concerned (if you hadn’t noticed). Despite all of the historical, liturgical, traditional and theological differences, everybody appears to have realised that arguing makes no difference. Catholics tend to just get on with it and let the Baptists, Methodists, Pentecostalists and Anglicans go their own way. Apart from the Evangelicals feeling the need to convert every single Catholic on the horizon to their way of thinking, everyone seems reasonably happy to quietly coast along.
However, if you were to go looking for noise and conflict then it wouldn’t take you much time to discover that the volume has been turned up between believers and nonbelievers – especially on social media. A little foray down the Youtubes will reveal debates, monologues and examples complete with running text battles in the comments sections.
It appears that people regularly fall into one of two camps: they either believe or they don’t. The nonbelievers are disparaging where God is concerned, goadingly spelling his name with a small ‘g’. In direct contrast, the adamant believers are constantly trying to provide evidence for a divine creator. At one time it was enough for a believer to point to the stars and remind the atheistic that the Universe can’t come from nothing. But not now. How the Universe was created is generally seen as something which really doesn’t matter anymore. It’s just a fact that it wasn’t “god”. The absence of whom is now disproved by celestial teapots, the Flying Spaghetti Monster and the Pink Unicorn. Although conceptual, they are all very real.
We are now told that the burden of proof sits squarely upon our shoulders and that if we wish to influence die-hard and embittered atheists and ex-Christians that there is indeed a God then we are the ones who must provide empirical evidence which is unfalsifiable. I could, at this point, present many different strategies, techniques and evidence for winning arguments concerning the existence of God but I’m not going to because I don’t believe there can ever be clear “winners” where God vs. no God arguments are concerned.
The fact is that common sense should dictate that the Almighty does indeed exist. St Paul explains everything perfectly in Romans 1 when he says that “since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities, His eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly seen, being understood from His workmanship, so that men are without excuse.”
What this means is that people choose not to believe.
Nevertheless, we are charged with going out into the world and making disciples of all nations (Matt 28 19:20).
As all are all capable of grasping the concept of God then surely this shouldn’t be difficult. All we have to do is tell the nonbeliever and hey-presto, another one enters into salvation, right? Au contraire. What usually happens is that we engage with someone who has made the decision to reject the truth and the inevitable stalemate results. Why though? Well, first of all people don’t like being told what to think. It’s also likely that somewhere along the line they have been hurt or forced to do something against their will.
The upshot of further discussion is that both sides will take their fair share of knocks and bruises as dialogue can often get heated and sometimes downright abusive. Nobody ever comes away unscathed from a battle – least of all the God one. Even if nobody is metaphorically wounded then at least battle fatigue will take hold. It doesn’t matter how well you present your case or how many unbelievers you smite with your mighty tongue or keyboard, you will never do yourself or your opponents any favours. You certainly won’t have won a soul for Christ because the job isn’t about proving the existence of God by arguing.
So what do we do? The directions are clear in scripture and from scriptural commentaries: we should not engage in debate with non-believers. What we’re instructed to do is to shake the dust of the town off our feet (Matt 10:14).
For our part we must listen to Jesus plainly stating that he had been sent only to the lost sheep of the House of Israel. He came for his own. And so it must be the same for us. We must look within our own ranks and care for those whose faith is weak. The ones in danger of giving up. The ones who have been wounded by parents, religious professionals and anyone who has been the victim of an errant teacher or a blind guide. But how do we do this?
We’re meant to be fishers of men. So how do we do this fishing? We must not ask ourselves How can I change this person’s belief to suit me? but What might I, or the church, a priest or another Christian from another denomination have done which has resulted in someone making the decision to decide against God or the church?
An example of this is from Quora where a very charitable lady answers the question “Why are you an atheist?”
She says: “I grew up in the Catholic Church. Mass every Sunday, etc.
I knew I was an atheist since I was little. I’m sure Sister Mary Margaret didn’t help when she told me that god hated questioning little girls with no faith. She then told me that if I didn’t find some faith quick, I was going straight to hell.
Even at the tender age of six, I thought punishing me with eternal damnation and hellfire for asking why there were no dinosaurs mentioned in Genesis was a bit over the top. That made me doubt everything I was being taught.”
It’s pretty obvious that Sister Mary Margaret shouldn’t have ever really been let loose as a nun never mind a teacher of six year old girls. The likelihood was that her faith was compromised because of her own shaky belief in God. I’m kinda guessing she never got that theology degree either. But it’s such a shame that the little girl had her tiny packet of faith destroyed in such a brutal way.
The bottom line is that the nun simply wasn’t emulating Christ who told us that he is the way, the truth and the life. He also says that we should learn from him because he is meek and lowly. So this is the answer: If we are Christ-like then we are living the same kind of life as Christ and can therefore be effective witnesses by the way we live our lives. We cannot be hypocritical. In John’s first letter he spells it out and says that if anyone says “I know Him,” but does not keep His commandments, he is a liar, and the truth is not in him. But if anyone keeps His word, the love of God has been truly perfected in him. By this we know that we are in Him: Whoever claims to abide in Him must walk as Jesus walked.”
Tough call. Basically it means that Christ will become present in us if we keep his word. He showed us the way, he told us the truth, he lived the exemplary life. He leads, we follow. If we do this then we will be the abode of the living Trinity. But we know the cost for us: it’s the narrow gate. It’s the discipline of the sainthood. It’s not about cherry picking the bits of our faith we can live easily. It’s about going up against the things which make us sin.
It won’t matter how many times we pray in tongues, quote scripture or go to church services, we will not turn a nonbeliever’s heart to God. Only the way we live the Christian life – complete with its hardships, obedience to church teaching and sacrifice – will have any influence.
Paul says that the righteous will live by faith. For us, this is the only way to live. If we love God and ourselves and are genuinely at peace with who we are then we are the empirical evidence. This is because a person’s relationship with God is reflected in their relationships with other people. And one’s relationships with others is mirrored in one’s relationship with God.
We must always be alert. We’re told that the foxes have holes, that the birds of the air have nests and that the Son of Man has nowhere to lay his head. So we know we can never fully put down roots in this world. This place is a passing place and we’re only here temporarily. The fact is, we barely have time for arguments. So we must strive to live the way of St Francis who always sought to please God. Francis was at peace. He was a gentle soul and he was meek. He inherited the earth.
Live this way and you’ll be beacons of hope.
Always bear in mind though, that even Jesus himself – by the way he lived his life (which incorporated exorcisms, breaking open the word of God for the people, healings and forgiveness) – was insufficient for some. He was often told he was unwelcome. They even accused him of being in league with Satan and tried to find fault with everything he did. Then they plotted to kill him.
Take it as read then, that there will be some who will never change. They are of this world and, as Jesus says, we must know that we'll be hated by the world. Even some of the ones who call him Lord will never enter the kingdom because their virtue will have gone no deeper than that of the scribes and Pharisees. These you will not change even if you become saints on earth and speak with the wisdom and love of the angels.
In sum then, no manner of persuasive talk will result in a conversion. We know this because there’s often pain which has resulted in the rejection of God. It may even be subconscious. We must be content that they’ll know we are Christians by our love and our fruits. If we produce the appropriate fruits then the non-believers will at least wonder if there’s anything in it. It is a fact then, that the proof of the pudding will be in its eating.









